I'm posting this because I have noticed an influx of people who absolutely refuse to accept any sort of criticism what-so-ever, usually chalking it up to an excuse that the people hate them and "Haters gonna hate" (dear FSM that hurt to type)
I want to clear up any misunderstanding people may have that critics = hate. That is not the case, in fact, that equation is false.
You see, when someone hates you, they usually hate you for a reason. Be it jealousy, personality clashes, the perception of right and wrong, one has been spoiled, you look different, act different, or you are not what they perceive to be "normal", then that's all they can throw at you. Nothing but hate and venom will come from them and whilst it may hurt to hear it at times, you can normally shrug it off and carry on your daily plan.
Critics though, they're completely different. They do care for you and point out your flaws in order for you to improve of them. However, these days all the new 'critics' seem to think that they should just keep pointing flaw after flaw and not praise someone/something where credit is due (yes film critics, I'm looking at you. Roger Ebert was a fair and wonderful critic, probably the only one to be 100% genuine too)
For instance, I know that I don't follow it, but look at sports. Usually the criticism about one player more than the other drives them to become better and better, a critic will write "This players game was one of the best this season, however his defence was a little lacking which gave way to some mistakes being made" The player in particular will read that and think back to his games, realise he needs to up his defence and will do for the next season. Same critic writing about the player will then say something like "The players defence has really improved over the last season, he has really grown as a person and as a team-mate. However his stamina through-out the season has become sub-par, resulting in him being substituted out more matches than he cares to admit." The player will then focus on improving his fitness level, becoming exponentially better than he was a mere 2 seasons ago.
If that player had just read all the negative points, then he would have just plain quit after the first season. But the fact that the critic had praised him when he improved his performance after the flaws were pointed out to him that shows the player that the critic really does care about the person.
When it comes to anybody, and I do mean anybody trying something. Be it University, fitness, sports, music, photography, drawing, improving their own social life, heck even dieting, then I urge you. No, in fact I beg you.
LISTEN TO YOUR CRITICS
They are the the ones that love you. Yeah family and friends will encourage you, but that's part of their job. Critics usually remain impartial and offer help/advice without you even asking for it.
They are not there to throw hate at you, or pick on you, or subject you to relentless psychological bullying. They are there to help you realise your flaws in what you are doing. By doing that they expect you to, at the very least, attempt to improve. If you show them that you are improving, their respect for you will increase too. It is when you are screwing up so badly and no-one, not even your critcs, are saying anything.... That's a very bad place to be as it means that everyone has just given up on you.
Except the haters as they will relentlessly push you down even further.
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